Building Esteem in Students
How do we build esteem while building strength?
Set the example.
“Let nothing be done through selfish ambition or conceit, but in lowliness of mind let each other esteem others better than himself. Let each of you look not only for his own interests, but also the interests of others.” – Phillipians 2:3-4.
If you are discouraged because of what others think of you, if you are comparing yourself to those around you, or if your motivation comes from wanting to please others and fit the image of what you think they want you to be, it’s time to evaluate the condition of your ego. Your ego is like a balloon and can exist in multiple states: Deflated, inflated, and filled. When your ego is filled, it stops drawing attention to itself and does not think of itself.
True humility does not mean thinking less of yourself, it’s not self-deprecating. True humility means not thinking of yourself at all.*
A humble attitude and heathy ego are often overlooked factors that are key to achieving and sustaining goals. Can you imagine what you can accomplish with this kind of mindset?
- The deflated ego is devastated by criticism.
- The inflated ego doesn’t care what others think because it thinks so highly of itself; doesn’t find fault in itself.
- The filled ego listens to criticism and does something about it. A filled ego either starts a dialogue (sharing, explaining, reasoning) or even better listens (learns, expands) to the critic.
When it’s no longer about you, then you can really start enjoying people/things for who/what they are.
Be an example to your peers by listening to criticism and then after careful consideration choose to either do something or do nothing and explain why.
[This idea was extrapolated from Freedom of Self-Forgetfulness by Timothy Keller who based his book on 1 Corinthians 3:21-4:7.]*
by Matt Antis, for RVPK